It is not a secret that motherhood is a very noisy place and is imperative that we, as busy moms, find a quiet place to regroup, regather, and recenter.
So, if you feel like you need some time alone to gather your thoughts, I want to reassure you, that you are not alone. It happens one way or another to ALL of us moms.
So read on and see how you too can find peace and quiet time in ordinary times of the day at unusual places.
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What is Quiet Time?
Technically, quiet time is finding a quiet place to think away from the ongoing hustle and bustle of a full house. Especially if you are a stay-at-home mom.
Interestingly enough, however, quiet time for moms is more than being physically silent. Quiet time involves stillness of mind, body, and soul. A chance to re-align, reassess, talk to God, and refresh your soul.
The length of frequency of quiet time does not matter, but it should be enough time to help you refuel and frequent enough as needed.
Quiet time might look different depending on your needs, beliefs, and practices. For instance, quiet time might include:
- Spending time with God, reading His word first thing in the morning.
- Watching TV alone after the kids go to bed.
- Finding time to exercise.
- Taking a walk.
- During daily chores (laundry, dishes, driving, folding clothes, cooking, etc.).
- Sitting on the porch for a few minutes with a cup of tea/coffee.
- Reading a book.
- Taking a bath/shower.
For me, my favorite quiet times include, spending time in God’s word, gardening, and reading. Although honestly, most of my quiet times these days consist of cooking while my husband plays with the kids, and sneaking into our back garden for a few minutes while everyone in the house is busy doing their own thing.
Why is Quiet Time for Moms Important?
Depending on our current phase of motherhood, our lives can become very, very loud.
Externally, we are constantly exposed to crying babies, screaming toddlers, loud teenagers, and a home full of buzz and commotion. Add to that the external chaos of social media, the news, current events, and other factors and you can clearly see why moms need quiet time, and often!
Internally, we are consumed by everyday noises as well such as our endless to-do list replaying over and over in our heads. These are expectations, responsibilities, workloads, worries, plus, the other million things that we moms crowd our minds with.
That said, it isn’t easy or possible to escape the madness, I know.
But, it is extremely important that we get small bits of clarity throughout the day to refocus, recharge, and reboot.
Why? Simply, because we need our sanity to take care of other humans.
And yes! You are still a good mom if you take some quiet time. In fact, it is almost a requirement to keep our sanity!
7 Ways to Find Quiet Time as a Busy Mom
So, how and where can we find a little bit of peace and quiet?
Easy! Book yourself an all-day spa and drink champagne as you receive a heavenly Swedish foot rub.
Alright, alright. Fine.
That isn’t very realistic. But I’ll tell you what is…
Here are 7 unexpected and realistic ways to find quiet time to help you gather your thoughts, think more clearly to prevent mom anxiety, and avoid mom burnout.
1. Mornings with God
In my opinion, one of the best quiet times for me involves refueling my spirit with God’s word.
Often times we think that spending quiet time with God has to be this elaborate, complicated thing that can even become intimidating for moms who are looking to start an early morning, quiet time routine with God.
Honestly, whether it is reading the Bible, meditating on a verse, saying a small prayer, reading from a devotional, or writing in a grateful journal… these are all great, and simple ways to spend some quiet time with God, in a way that is doable and realistic for most busy moms.
I’ve found that spending time with God before the kids wake up is the best way to get my day going in the right direction.
Daily Grace Co. has a great collection of beautiful devotionals and study guides for mornings with God.
2. Early Morning or late night
One of the best ways to find quiet time as a busy mom is to do it either before the kids wake up or after they go to bed.
For me, that valuable time in the early morning hours of quiet and stillness is like no other. I feel it sets the tone for a great school morning routine and it allows me to start the morning on a more positive note.
But if late night works better for you, that is also a good option.
Watching TV or reading a book are great quiet time ideas for moms who are looking to unwind at the end of a busy day.
3. During Daily Chores
Oh, the lovely home chores we all love to hate.
Believe it or not, during most of our daily chores, we can find some much-needed quiet time. Although there might still be some chaos in the background of rambunctious little voices, you can still find some inner quiet as you do these daily duties:
- Washing dishes
- Laundry and folding clothes
I like to take this “time to myself” to watch a video, put on some music, say a prayer, or just work in silence.
4. Walk and exercise
It is no secret that physical exercise is great for the mind, body, and soul.
However, it is also no secret that as a busy mom, it is often hard to find time to do exactly that.
For me, taking a daily 10-minute walk, and feeling the sun on my skin, is one of the best ways to clear my mind and help me refocus. Especially as a work-from-home mom.
Again, waking up before the kids can give you a chance to get in a quick workout.
5. Bathroom Time
When you are a mom, ANY chance we can turn into quiet time, we take it!
And that is when bathroom time can become sacred. Well, that is if your kids are past the age of two. Otherwise, this fifth “quiet time place” does not yet exist for you.
I can still remember using the bathroom with a toddler sitting on a stepping stool singing the ABCs and taking a shower with a baby on a stroller at eye-sight!
But, I digress! If you have older kids, or your husband is home, bathroom time can be a great quiet time alternative when all else fails.
For me, the shower is the one place where I am completely alone, and I get to do all of my creative thinking. It isn’t rare that I step out of the shower a few times to write something down.
Another great alternative is taking a bath. Light your candles, put a few drops of your favorite organic essential oils, put some music, and enjoy.
6. During Traffic or Driving
Although this one seems to be a weird suggestion, it happens to be one of my favorite places to get some mental clarity.
I admit, being stuck in traffic is one of the most frustrating things that can happen. Especially, if you have kids on board and they are being rowdy.
However, oftentimes times we underestimate the power of some alone time even if it means being surrounded by other cars that are moving at turtle speed.
In other words, there can be a whole lot of chaos happening all around you, but you can still learn how to find quiet time within.
Next time you are stuck in traffic, try putting soothing music on the radio and direct your mind to productive and positive thoughts.
Here is a handy list of what I used to do when I would be stuck in traffic when I worked as a nurse:
- Reflect on things that are taking place in my life and how to make them better
- Counting my blessings
- Starting a grocery list
- Set some goals
- Sit still and just be (sometimes looking at my surroundings; the vast sky, birds, other commuters, construction workers, firetrucks rushing to an emergency… make me realize how incredibly blessed we are to be living.).
I don’t know about you, but I think all those things beat being angry and lashing out at other drivers who ultimately can’t do anything about your situation.
I like to keep a notepad and pencil in the glove compartment because it isn’t unusual for ideas to come flowing to me as I do that.
Of course, these days you can create voice notes on your phone. But, trying to avoid your cellphone use while driving (even in standstill traffic) is always a good idea.
So, next time you are stuck in traffic, ideally by yourself without the kids, try one of these ideas. I guarantee you that when you get home from wherever you went you will be a much happier mamma.
7. Embrace a Hobby
While the quiet time for some moms requires, well, silence. Some others consider quiet time to be engaging in something that they enjoy doing.
Think of something you love to do and find at least 10-15 minutes a day the time to do so.
Here are some examples:
- Knit, crochet, sow
- Paint or draw
It doesn’t have to be anything fancy. Simply find something that brings you peace and joy, and do it!
As moms, we are incredibly busy all the time. So, it becomes hard to find quiet time to allow us to regroup and reset
Ultimately, it comes down to how we use our time.
Truth is, we can’t find the time because there isn’t any. Instead, we have to make the time.
We do that by carving out windows of time before the kids wake up when they go to bed, or incorporating our quiet time throughout our day as we do our chores or daily necessities.
What times of your day can you incorporate quiet time today?
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